- Spend some unplugged time together every day. Put away your phone, tablet and computer and spend time together without the electronic distractions.
- Kiss him like you mean it. After a few years of marriage, the ‘hot and heavy’ kissing we once enjoyed often disappears. Add a couple of kids and a busy schedule to the mix, and kissing tends to be relegated to a pathetic peck on the lips a couple of times a day! One way to stay connected to your husband is to kiss him like you mean it – every day!
- Touch base during the day. If your schedules allow it, talk on the phone at least once a day, just to see how things are going for both of you. If talking isn’t feasible, send a brief email or text, just to let him know you’re thinking of him.
- Crank up your sexual energy. I’m not talking about having more sex (although that’s good too!), but rather about infusing your marriage with sexual energy – the communications and actions that say “I want you.” Sexual energy “boosters” come in many forms – sexy texts, sexy nicknames, code words, quick-but-steamy kisses or touches, planning and anticipating sexual activities, trying something outside your comfort zone, and anything else that keeps you connected sexually.
- Speak your spouse’s love language. You probably know about the 5 love languages, but are you speaking your partner’s love language consistently? When your schedule gets crazy, maximize your connection by showing him love in the way he was designed to receive it.
- Let go of small things that interfere with your connection. Do you hang onto small annoyances, things your spouse says or does that really bug you? I try not to, but sometimes it requires putting mind over emotions, making a conscious choice to let it go. It’s hard to maintain a positive connection if you feel annoyed with your spouse frequently, so consider making the choice to let some things go. I’m not talking about serious issues in your marriage (those need to be addressed), but rather the small things that just aren’t worth the anger or frustration you invest in them.
- Work on projects together. Rather than always focusing on your own projects, change things up sometimes and work on projects together. If he always does the yard work and outside projects, for example, work together outside one Saturday. Or if you do all of the interior painting, ask him to work with you one weekend to paint a room. Or work on a project you both enjoy (like gardening) or share the “pain” of a project you both hate (like cleaning out the garage).
The Starfish – Universal Symbol of Renewal and Healing
The Starfish is the universal symbol of renewal and healing.